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<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span><\/span>Sexism exists everywhere, and it always will, because the genders are different and those differences affect how genders think and act towards each other. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n What Constitutes Sexism?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n [tag]Sexism is discrimination based on gender, and it comes in many forms[\/tag].<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n It could be something simple, like my senior group project with four guys where they always wanted me to be the notetaker because I was a girl and I had the best handwriting. I think of these little comments and situations as \u201ccasual\u201d sexism, because they usually stem from a lifetime of conditioning about gender stereotypes and are mostly unintentional. Luckily, simple situations usually have simple solutions: I handed the guys my laptop. Problem solved.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Or [tag]sexism can be serious[\/tag], like in the case of the gender wage gap. For which I have no good advice because I believe a) in free markets and b) that the differences in pay between men and women are not caused by gender, but by other factors that correlate with gender. Like having children.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n [tag]Sexual harrassment is part of sexism too[\/tag], but I\u2019m not going to touch on it in this article. You can read other women\u2019s thoughts about it here.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n As a woman, an important skill is knowing how to deal with [tag]career-limiting sexism[\/tag] in the workplace. Here are a few tips:<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Find An Alternate Solution<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n When you experience [tag]\u201ccasual\u201d sexism[\/tag], there is usually nothing gained from pointing out that it is, in fact, sexism. It makes you look like a complainer. Instead, offer an alternate solution. For example, if you are always getting asked to complete a menial task, like scheduling lunches or meetings, suggest that the group rotates responsibility every month. Make it clear that the task is menial and the duty should be shared. If anything, people will respect that you are not their secretary.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n [tag]Change Your Style to Match the Situation[\/tag]<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n It seems to bother people when I tell them they should change their style in professional settings, and that confuses me. We censor ourselves all the time in different types of situations, and I don\u2019t see how this is different. So if you are at a meeting with all men who are ignoring you, speak louder and make your ideas heard. If everyone is interrupting each other, start interrupting to get your voice heard. It sounds crazy, but you will be much more successful in meetings and other workplace interactions when you adopt the [tag]dominate communication style[\/tag]. Yes, it\u2019s out of your comfort zone, but I promise it won\u2019t kill you.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n At the same time, find a balance. [tag]Don\u2019t completely change who you are[\/tag], because that doesn\u2019t work either. The key is to adapt by pushing your comfort zone outwards in every situation while still staying true to yourself.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Question If Gender Is Actually Important in the Situation<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Everyone thinks that gender needs to balanced within organizations and groups. For example, women of all ages always try to convince me that young women should be working their way up the corporate ladders of Fortune 500 companies. [tag]\u201cWe need more women CEOs!\u201d[\/tag] (Less than 2.5% of Fortune 500 CEOs are women.) But personally, I don\u2019t want to be CEO of a Fortune 500 company. I want to be [tag]CEO of my own company[\/tag].<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n And realistically, this works better for women. I see older generations of women who are finally starting their own businesses because they spent years chipping away at the glass ceiling with toothpick and a baby on one arm. And I want a family too, so working my way up the ladder just to hit a glass ceiling is unappealing; I\u2019d rather skip it all together with freelancing or entrepreneurship, neither of which require sacrificing everything to borrow a sledgehammer.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n So question why we must have 50\/50 gender in every profession, organization, and school. Is it really important? Maybe genders are just attracted to different career paths because one\u2019s gender is a factor in determining one\u2019s strengths. Why aren\u2019t we as a society okay with that?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n [tag]Even the Playing Field a Little[\/tag]<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Men disproportionately play chess, poker, and sports; so if you want to be seen as an [tag]equal with men[\/tag], take up one of these hobbies. I chose (watching) sports, and the best way I learned to keep up with the teams and players every season is by joining fantasy leagues that my guy friends set up. You\u2019d be surprised how easy and fun it is to pick up a hobby, and men don\u2019t care if you are any good or not, they just think it\u2019s cool you showed up to play. (Plus it gives you something to build a working relationship off of, which is always good for your career.)<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n What\u2019s even more surprising is how competing against guys in one aspect of your life will bleed over to all other aspects. I first learned this lesson when my father put me in ju-jitsu lessons at age 13 and I had to spar boys during every class. It sucked, but I got very strong and very good at fighting in a short amount of time.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n [tag]Know When To Leave[\/tag] <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Honestly, [tag]I don\u2019t think sexism (outside of sexual harassment) is a huge problem in the workplace[\/tag], as long as women can learn to handle it. I don\u2019t expect that to be a popular opinion because I\u2019m overexposed to sexism by the nature of my profession and I\u2019ve developed a high tolerance towards the stuff that bothers other women. (Plus sexism probably doesn\u2019t affect my paycheck negatively anyway.)<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n But really, [tag]sexism is about drawing lines[\/tag]. Every person has their own line that they must draw, where on one side lie the things they will put up with and on the other lie the things they will not tolerate. Every time that line is crossed, that person has the choice to either deal or leave. And that person gets to pick the number of times they are willing to deal too.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n So if sexism is out of control in your current workplace, by your standards, I would suggest leaving. And then stop working for companies that don\u2019t draw their line where you draw yours. [tag]Stop working with bosses and coworkers that don\u2019t draw their line where you draw yours[\/tag]. [tag]Find a company that aligns with your values[\/tag], and you shouldn\u2019t have any more problems with sexism.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Author: Monica O’brien <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Sexism exists everywhere, and it always will, because the genders are different and those differences affect how genders think and […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1086,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[11],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1024","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-know-thy-self"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/10\/pic2.jpg?fit=335%2C200&ssl=1","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1024","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1024"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1024\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1036,"href":"https:\/\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1024\/revisions\/1036"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1086"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1024"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1024"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.torontoismine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1024"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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